How to Know If Your Relationship Is Over? Ask Yourself These 3 Questions

As Paul Hudson of Elite Daily says, the butterflies in your stomach, head in the clouds, and heart pounding when you know you're going to meet your partner won't last forever, but that doesn't mean it's all over between you. As a relationship solidifies, it's normal for the initial fire to cool down and turn into love.

When you've been together for a long time, it's even harder to decide to break up, there are many experiences and threads that hold you together, friends, relatives, memories that are part of your life, experiences that you find impossible to separate from even if the situation becomes complicated. Closing with the past completely is not easy.

In any case, before you make the decision and blow up what could be your most important love story, there are three questions you should reflect on.

Do I really love this person?

Don't immediately answer yes or no, explain to yourself what you like most about him.

After many months or years, what are the characteristics of his character or personality that you would still choose? It is clear that each of us has values ​​and flaws, but what makes a partner unique from the whole world, is what you really want in your life?

Also, ask yourself, as difficult as it may be, if you see your partner as they really are and not as you would like them to be. Sometimes misunderstandings arise precisely from the different interpretations we make: we stay with a person we like, but we only like them if they are, or do what we want. On the contrary, it can happen that at the beginning of a love, we only consider our personality to bring the person we were with into the background, but it is impossible to suppress the ego forever and then misunderstandings arise.

Are the problems that have arisen between you solvable?

Find an appropriate moment and look at the relationship detached from it, it may be difficult, but focus and detach as much as possible.

Imagine you are a complete stranger, put your emotions aside and reflect. Are the arguments you are having about trivial matters that have turned into world wars, or are there external problems that you cannot solve and are holding on to your partner?

Or do they come from a mismatch, from being too different, or from the end of love between you? It's not easy to accept that a relationship is over, it's not easy to think rationally when it comes to emotions, and emotions can be your worst advisor.

Relationships are not always easy and exciting, or difficult and depressing. Difficult moments happen to everyone, even the most united couples, and it won't help to shut yourself off.

Only by talking can you resolve the tensions that are building in your relationship. Once again, beware of emotions. Before opening a conversation with your partner, reflect carefully on what the real problems between you are and whether they are worth solving or leaving altogether.

Are the reasons we decided to be together still valid?

Do you remember when you met him, you had questions in your stomach? You didn't know what to wear before going out because you wanted to please him, but while maintaining your personality? Or more simply, why did you decide to stay together?

Do you feel those emotions that made the spark between you explode again? And if you haven't been together for a lifetime, choosing to end it is not easy. In one way or another, that person has changed you and has been an important part of your life, but are you still ready to have that person in the days to come?

If you want to break up, do it in the most peaceful way: don't hold grudges, it won't make you feel better and it won't help you solve your problems. The priority should always be to be okay with yourself.